Here’s a question: Have you ever tried to tell an Indian mother that you would like a destination wedding? And once you did that, did you proceed to get repeat panic phone calls about how this would make it very inconvenient for her to have the wedding of her dreams attended by 500 of your closest friends and family including your dentist, the car mechanic and long lost third grade teacher? Well then sit down my friend, I know how you feel!
My wedding was everything I wanted and more don’t get me wrong. However, I do realize that sometimes a wedding is not only about you but about the people who are most important in your life. In that respect, it can be tricky trying to fit in what you want with the visions of what your family wants. Going through this is a valuable lesson in the art of compromise.
However, your wedding should reflect something about you, your personalities and what makes you as a couple unique. So as much as you have the freedom to do so, what better opportunity to express yourselves than on the day that you will remember in the years to come!
There are some couples who express themselves by having truly unique weddings such as the couple who loved wildlife so much that they got married on two elephants in the middle of an African safari! Or the bride and groom who danced all the way down the aisle in one of my favorite videos of all time which became a viral YouTube sensation. Why did we love it so much? Because it was a beautiful, ‘straight-from-the-heart’ expression of the personalities of two fun loving and joyous people.
For me, I wanted all of my friends who had been important in my life to feel as if they were a part of the wedding. I had over twenty bridesmaids which a lot of people had told me was insane! But it didn’t matter, my bridesmaids are a part of who I am today and that was my unique touch. So even with the craziness of flying to India to buy 23 saris, getting the blouses stitched in America, and then mailing them from California to New York to Houston–the end result was absolutely beautiful! But most of all, it was me.
So I’m hoping to inspire you today. Make your wedding yours in any small way you can. Because isn’t that what we love about weddings in the first place? It’s that poem written by the groom that touches our heart and makes us wonder when he got so sensitive, or the suprise song sung by the bride to the groom that makes you feel honored to be a part of something so special. What makes you unique? Take your day and make it an expression of what you as a couple have become. Surprise everyone! Even your dentist.
Image Credits: Tomas Ramos Photography