Q: My niece is getting married and we were discussing the church where they will be married. When I got married, my husband married me in my church in my home town. My niece would like to get married in her future husband’s church, but she isn’t a practicing Catholic. What is the right etiquette for this situation?
A: The decision about where to be married has many layers nowadays. In the past, brides generally married in their hometown church. Now, with such a mobile society and brides marrying after they have moved away from home, there are more options. If the bride and groom both enjoy the groom’s church, the next step would be for them to speak with the priest/minister to see if the church is willing to marry them. Some churches are more liberal than others regarding religions and levels of observance. How to proceed depends on the particular church.
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