Q: What is the protocol for having showers for a second wedding?
A: The protocol for a second wedding is as varied as the circumstances surrounding the wedding. The overall guideline is that since a shower is theoretically to help the couple establish a household, and since at least one of them has been married before, they would already have all of the accruements for the household and therefore would not need a shower. This ignores the fact that showers help the two families get to know one another prior to the wedding. In addition, life is short and the happy occasions to celebrate are few and far between. So if the bride’s friends would like to host a small party in the bride’s honor, I am all for it.
Jodi R. R. Smith is a nationally known etiquette expert and author. She is the president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. You are invited to email her your etiquette emergencies at Salem@Mannersmith.com