Q: My fiancé is a non-practicing Mormon and I never have been. I know he probably would not feel comfortable drinking alcohol at our wedding in front of his Mormon family. I want champagne at my wedding but do not want to offend my fiance’s family. Is it rude to have the champagne?
A: Very perceptive question, it is wise for you to consider the scenario before the event! The answer depends on a number of factors. Will the ceremony take place in a Mormon venue? Will many of the attendees be non-Mormons? If the wedding will be taking place on neutral grounds and many of the attendees do drink alcohol, then you can consider serving champagne. Before you make the final decision, you should take the time to speak with your fiancé and his parents to make sure no offense will be taken if alcohol is served. If they are accepting of the idea, be sure to offer a non-alcoholic alternative for the practicing Mormons. (Sparkling apple cider tastes great and is very festive.)
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