Just like posed pictures of your family all standing neatly angled in front of the church has become somewhat passé, Mendelssohn’s “Wedding March” is a song I have in my music collection gathering a lot of virtual dust. In six busy years as a wedding DJ and minister, I think I’ve heard the Wedding March about three times. Brides are not interested in the gloom and doom sounding organ music on what is supposed to be one of the brightest, cheeriest days of their lives.
When brides come to me ready to discuss their wedding music, they are almost always sure they don’t want the Wedding March played, although Pachelbel’s upbeat, refreshing “Canon in D” is still quite popular. The problem is that brides are generally totally stumped on what song should replace the “Wedding March.” Of course, a good wedding DJ will have lots of suggestions for you.
If you want to keep it classical and sophisticated, try the “Brandenberg Concerto” by Bach (also a good recessional). Brides also often go with instrumental songs from their favorite movie soundtracks as well (one bride recently used instrumentals from Legends of the Fall). Another option, which is also very popular, is an acoustic guitar or modernized version of the “Wedding March.” Go to iTunes and type in “Wedding March” for limitless ideas. Brides also sometimes choose new age music.
For the brides looking for something that makes a bit more of a statement, I have also worked with clients that have chosen regular songs that they felt captured their essence. For example, my friend Lindsay entered to “She’s Like the Wind,” from Dirty Dancing, which absolutely sucked the air out of the room, it made such an unforgettable impression. Another bride I worked with recently walked in to Des’ree’s “Kissin’ You.”
One more tidbit almost all of my clients snatch up….the Vitamin String Quartet. They re-work popular songs from then and now into super cool instrumentals—from Lady GaGa to Jimi Hendrix. Their stuff is fresh, fun, and yet still elegant. The majority of my brides fall in love with the VSQ and want their music exclusively for the ceremony. The bride I’m DJing for on July 27th is using the VSQ’s “We Are Young” for the processional and “Where Is My Mind” for her entrance.
Destination wedding? Hire live local musicians to play in the native musical style. (Well, in Mexico you may opt for a flamenco guitarist instead of mariachis!) You should note that St. Louis Bride & Groom Magazine reported that 65% of brides who had live music at their receptions wish they would’ve hired a DJ. So, if you want live music, the ceremony is the best place for it. Make sure the musicians can provide a wireless microphone for your officiant.
Rest peacefully “Wedding March.” You lead a long and fulfilling life.