In my previous post, I talked about my money story and how it showed up in my life.
What’s really the message that you got from your family’s money story?
In my own example, the message I got was that I was not good enough —I didn’t deserve money. This may sound familiar to some of you. My mother would say we didn’t have enough money for the things I wanted but then we would go on a trip to Disney or put in a pool. That kept reaffirming the message that money was for everyone else but me. Yes, I did benefit from the trips but as a child I never saw it that way.
The key to healing your money story: forgiveness
A lot of this stuff we take on as a burden or debt from other people—most often our parents—and they most likely got it from their parents. It’s time to break the cycle; it’s time to either forgive the debt and let it go or give it back.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. You’re not approving, condoning, or substantiating what people did. You’re releasing the burden that you’re carrying. The opposite of forgiveness is feeling hurt, anger, upset, shame, rage, or whatever it is that we’re carrying. And we are the ones carrying it, not the other person. Forgiveness offers this incredible release that you can give yourself. It releases you from the burden and chains of the past. It impacts your future.
It doesn’t mean that you have to resume a relationship with someone who hurt you. It doesn’t mean you have to allow them into your life. It doesn’t have anything to do with the other person. The act of not forgiving is actually holding on to negative emotions. Forgiveness comes from the heart. It does not come from the mouth. It brings peace and harmony. It creates expansion, and above all, it creates freedom and peace of mind.
If you want to truly heal your money story and start attracting and keeping more, I suggest you start with forgiveness. Hand write a letter to the person(s) who gave you your early money beliefs—a letter just for your eyes. Then burn it and send the ashes to the winds. As you watch the ashes float away, let go of the old money beliefs that have held you paralyzed for so long.
It’s not too late to set some money goals for yourself and your relationship, so if you haven’t already, why not make a promise to yourself that this time next year you’ll be in better shape financially and emotionally than you are now? To get you started and as my gift to you, I invite you to visit my website today and take my free wealth-esteem inventory . You may be surprised at some of your answers. Please leave your comments below; I’d love to read them.