Wedding Etiquette 2/26/13

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Wedding Announcements Q:  What is the best way to announce a wedding? My husband and I were married last month in a private ceremony.  We now want to send announcements that we have been married, just as you would to announce a birth. I am having difficulty finding anything as such, please advise. A: Con... read more

Wedding Announcements
Q: What is the best way to announce a wedding? My husband and I were married last month in a private ceremony.  We now want to send announcements that we have been married, just as you would to announce a birth. I am having difficulty finding anything as such, please advise.

A: Congratulations on your marriage.  Yes, one can announce a marriage in the same way as other major lifecycle events such as births and graduations.  The typical announcement for a first time bride reads as follows:

Mr. and Mrs. Jeffery Paul Douglas
have the honour of announcing
the marriage of their daughter
Jodi Stacy
to
Mr. Allen Daniel Gregg
on Saturday, the first of January
Two thousand thirteen
Saint Michael’s Church
Chicago,IL

Your local invitation supplier will help you with the wording and details.

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Thank you Titles
Q:  I am a bride and beginning to write my thank you notes.  When writing a thank you note to a married couple, the husband is a medical doctor and the wife has a graduate doctoral degree, how do I address them properly in writing and what is the proper salutation?

A: As strange as it may sound, the proper titles would be: Dr. and Mrs. Donald Trump.  Only medical doctors use their title in social situations.  Then, inside would depend on your relationship.  If they are business associates of your parents, you might say “Dr. and Mrs. Trump;” whereas if they are your relatives, you might say “Aunt Kathy and Uncle Bob;” or if they are friends of yours, you might say “Kathy and Bob.”

 

Refined Celebration
Q: I have been to many weddings lately where the festivities digressed from lovely to raunchy as the evening progressed.  This is my wedding day, not an episode of Bridezilla.  I have already decided not to do the garter toss and we will not be smashing cake into each others’ faces.  What else can I do to help make sure things don’t get out of hand?

A: Ah, a polite bride!  There are many things you can do to be sure your wedding day is an elegant affair.  First and foremost, you and your groom should spread the word among your friends of the type of event you envision.  This will help to set the expectations.  Next have a plan for the alcohol consumption.  Any drinks should be offered at the same time as food.  You certainly can limit the choices during any cocktail hour.  For example, you can offer only passed wine rather than an open bar with shots.  If you do have an open bar, consider your drink menu and discuss it specifically with your bartender.  The open bar can be limited to only the cocktail hour, during the dinner have wait staff pouring wine for guests.  Work with your caterer and band so that there is dancing between each course allowing guests to digest before imbibing again.  Lastly, speak with your band about watching the mood of the crowd.  If things are getting crazy, they should switch over to some slower dances.  All the best.

Jodi R. R. Smith is a nationally known etiquette expert and author. She is the president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. You are invited to email her your etiquette emergencies at Salem@Mannersmith.com

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