MOTHER OF THE BRIDE ATTIRE
Q: I am terrified of what my mother will wear to the wedding. I love her very much, but she still thinks she can fit into a size 4 and pull off a style designed for a much younger woman. How can I help her to find something more refined?
A: Plan a special day just for the two of you. Have lunch together as shopping on an empty stomach is sure to cause the crabbies. Then find the perfect outfit you can both agree upon. If you know some of the stores you will be visiting, call in advance to speak with the owner or salesperson to explain the situation. They can help to gently guide your mother towards more flattering outfits.
Q: My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding; we simply do not have the budget to invite all our single friends and family with a guest.
A: Etiquette is very clear on this issue. If someone is married, engaged, or living with a significant other, the spouse, fiancé or SO is invited. The gray area here is if you are inviting singles who are not engaged or living with someone. If you are inviting a good number of singles, then they should all be invited as a single. However, if most of your guests are couples and you have only a handful of singles, then they should be invited with a guest.
CRAZY UNCLE JOE
Q: I have a family member who’s sure to say something offensive during my wedding. At the most recent family wedding, he grabbed the microphone from the best man to say that they had best have baby within 9 month to prove they “got busy” on their wedding night. It was embarrassing and awkward.
A: Everyone has an “Uncle Joe.” No need to sweat it. Instead assign cousin Fred to be sure Joe does not get anywhere near a microphone.
Jodi R. R. Smith is a nationally known etiquette expert and author. She is the president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. You are invited to email her your etiquette emergencies at Salem@Mannersmith.com
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