Being from different backgrounds, cultures and religions, my fiancé and I decided to incorporate both of our customs and traditions to signify our union as husband and wife. From the moment we got engaged, including both of our ethnic customs and traditions was something that was very important to us. The first item on our list was setting a wedding date. In many Asian countries, an auspicious date is chosen for the couple to ensure a happy marriage. This is usually determined by a fortune teller or priest who uses the couple’s birth dates to establish the wedding date.
Once the wedding date was set, we began to think about other customs and traditions that we could include for our special day. My family is from the Philippines and my fiancé’s family is from Taiwan. Since we were getting married in the Catholic church, something I wanted to include in the wedding party from the Filipino tradition was the principal and secondary sponsors. Principal sponsors are designated “godparents” to help guide and lead us through our marriage. Secondary sponsors include couples who drape a cord or “lasso” and veil around the couple to bind them together as one.
From the Taiwanese tradition, we wanted to include a traditional tea ceremony which is performed after the church ceremony to symbolize honor and respect for both families.
While wedding traditions and customs vary between different backgrounds, cultures and religions, incorporating them brings a unique and personal touch for you to share with your friends and family.