Finding “the wedding dress” is probably one of the most stressful yet wonderfully exhilarating aspects of being a bride. So imagine the look of horror that blanketed my mom’s face when I told her I wanted to “trash” mine.
I spent the next 30 minutes of that conversation explaining the concept of a “Trash the Dress” (TTD) photo session — “a session that the newly married couple partakes in where the photographer captures their first adventure as husband and wife … in a magically beautiful setting … under the perfect light … snapshots filled of love, laughter, and passion,” I tell her. “Oh that sounds so nice,” my mom said as her quizzical frown turned into a smile.
Then I unleashed the kicker … “Oh yeah, and sometimes the couple gets in the water or lays on sand, dirt, and mud in their wedding attire, hence the term ‘trash the dress’.” Yeah, mom’s smile quickly faded and back came the disapproving scowl and more confusion.
So in an attempt to convince her that this artsy yet edgy concept was truly all the rage these days, I pulled up website after website of breathtaking photos that first introduced me to this fabulous style of imagery. And slowly but surely she began to understand the magic of the TTD — fun-loving, romantic, sexy and stress-free. I also told her that many brides said their dresses were perfectly fine after a little air-drying (for those destination wedding brides) followed by a good ol’ professional cleaning at home.
There is no doubt that wedding day photos are uniquely special and emanate an incredible sense of beauty all their own. Wedding photos represent the complete uniting of a couple’s lives together and a new beginning — kind of like those photos of a mother holding her baby for the first time.
But “trash the dress” photos, sometimes referred to as “day-after photos” (if you don’t plan on really dirtying up the gown and suit), capture a couple’s first steps together, embarking on a new adventure. Without the stress of a wedding day schedule. Without guests who are vying for attention. Without worrying that the decor looks exactly how you envisioned or any worries that everything “goes as planned.” The TTD is carefree, exciting and truly all about love. It’s the start of a couple’s lives together, the beginning of new plateaus — kind of like those photos of a baby walking for the very first time.
Unfortunately, my dreams to dirty up my beautiful wedding dress were not truly fulfilled because of the material of my gown, so we opted for a “day-after” session instead. And although we managed to stay dry and dirt-free, the time we shared was just as fun and magical as I envisioned it would be.
And much like I toddler taking those first few steps … we loved, we lived and we laughed together into the start of something new and special.
And just a few others that happen to be my favorites …